How does one define friendship?
For me, its what you can share with someone. Those little things that nobody else can know and that nobody will discover unless you open up to them? Well yes, but it comes in different forms too. It comes as a mutual agreement that you appreciate each others' company. It comes by chance. Chance is probably the most crucial part. The world isn't pre-determined. Time moves from moment to moment and the only way to look back is through memory (and this is coming from one of the bow-ties-are-cool-brigade) If you make good friends, you're lucky. I have.
What about when friendship goes sour? Arguments, a lack of intent to make it work, differing interests, growing apart? The easiest thing to do is to blame the other person, never speak of it again and move on with your life. It's never that easy. Never. It takes effort, it takes intent, it takes a realization that you'll miss that person in your life. Most of all it takes a mutual acceptance. Mutuality is to friendship what Obama is to presidency (has a lot of good intentions but probably won't stay very long).
The sooner people realise that I'm holding my side of this agreement, the sooner I can get on with my life. Telling me one thing and others another will only hinder things.
Time to sit and wait, I suppose.
P.S. don't know if he's been reading this, but get well soon big Jack! No more red meat on the barbie for you though...
Thursday, 1 March 2012
Wednesday, 29 February 2012
househunt
Went house-hunting today, looked at three houses.
Two were nice-ish, not the standard that we're living in currently but nice enough. Liveable.
The last one was appalling. There was a distinct lack of effort put into not only its upkeep but its initial development. Generally this wouldn't bother me but according to unipol this was a FIVE STAR property. What constitutes five star? Well decorated? Apparently not. Shower facilities for anyone over 5"6? Apparently not. Furniture that matches? Definitely not.
Never one to pick up on jobs I can't do myself, but its fair to say that I've wallpapered in the past and did a substantially better job than that offered by the landlord. I could do better aged 13 when all I was doing was applying paste in a vain attempt to help my Dad decorate the house.
As for the furniture issue, the modern age has allowed us to buy furniture that matches at EXTREMELY low prices. Why would people not take advantage of this?! Why oh why would anyone combine the curses of the cheap and the non-matching? Absolute nonsense.
They really need to establish a substantially better system of accounting for houses. The current one is too happy to give a rating that lasts a decade but never checks or re-checks the eventual hovel that people are paying a ridiculous amount of money for.
Two were nice-ish, not the standard that we're living in currently but nice enough. Liveable.
The last one was appalling. There was a distinct lack of effort put into not only its upkeep but its initial development. Generally this wouldn't bother me but according to unipol this was a FIVE STAR property. What constitutes five star? Well decorated? Apparently not. Shower facilities for anyone over 5"6? Apparently not. Furniture that matches? Definitely not.
Never one to pick up on jobs I can't do myself, but its fair to say that I've wallpapered in the past and did a substantially better job than that offered by the landlord. I could do better aged 13 when all I was doing was applying paste in a vain attempt to help my Dad decorate the house.
As for the furniture issue, the modern age has allowed us to buy furniture that matches at EXTREMELY low prices. Why would people not take advantage of this?! Why oh why would anyone combine the curses of the cheap and the non-matching? Absolute nonsense.
They really need to establish a substantially better system of accounting for houses. The current one is too happy to give a rating that lasts a decade but never checks or re-checks the eventual hovel that people are paying a ridiculous amount of money for.
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